Preparing for 2008

When I read “Software for your head”, I loved the protocols. I really thoughed they were a very powerfull way to optimize the communication in a team.

I was not sure how to use them in a team. I only dared to use them in a team after I did follow my Oklahoma bootcamp.

I was blow away about that experience. Last year I organized one in Belgium and was happy to see, it had the same effect on the participants.

This year I will focus myself on organizing BootCamps. so 2008 will be totally different from what I amused to.

I have never done this and not on that scale.

I will need help, lots of help. That is what I will focus on the next months.

I’m glad I started this journey

I’m sad I did not do it before

I’m afraid and glad,  I don’t know what the consequences are for my life

Let’s go for 2008…

The World is Flat:Shift Happens

I have moved this post to my new blog

http://www.hanoulle.be/2007/12/the-world-is-flatshift-happens/

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Being angry is alright…

 

I’m just back from a GTO (Gestalt Therapy Training) weekend.
I don’t want to write too much detail on what happens there, as that is private to the group.

Although we don’t learn techniques in the GTO, on thing that happened gave me an idea.

The way we deal with being angry is, is based on a script we wrote ourselves when we where kids and how we were allowed (or not) to deal with that.

The Check in protocol can help with that. Saying that you are mad, glad, sad or afraid. Checking out when being mad is as powerful.

With my kids I learn them that being mad is OK.

It’s not OK to hit me, themselves or someone else when being mad. Neither is doing anything stupid (like destroying something…)

So when my 3 year and 5 year old kids get mad and hit me, or spit at me or something similar I ask them to checkout or I put them in time-out.

Today I saw a very powerful reaction of our trainer to a person being mad at her.

It’s ok to be mad at me.
I don’t promise I will change my behavior. But when I do this action again, you are allowed to be mad, and every time this happens I will give you the time to deal with it.

In this case the person was given a pillow she could hit on. And believe me it helped.

It made me realize I allow my kids to be mad but I don’t give them a tool to work out their frustration, their emotion and their energy.

It’s not yet clear to me how we will do this. It is clear I want to do something with that idea.

I loved the fact that the trainer said, “it’s ok to be mad at me. I will do the same thing. And it is OK to be mad at me for that.” I noticed that this surprised a few people. I don’t see many managers saying this. For me this is one of the qualities of a good leader. (Or parent).

It was also very clear that when you deal with this kind of situation badly as parent/manager, you can damage your kids/employees a lot.

The core protocols are a great way to deal with emotions at work.

Update: it works great with my kids. They understand that being angry is OK. They start to understand that it is nt Ok to work it out on other people. And they start taking a pillow to hit our seat.

I am Yves Hanoulle, your virtual Project coach and you can reach me at blog at my training company  .net

Perfection game MBA in one day

Last week I went to MBA in 1 day

I give it a 9/10

What I liked about it:

Ben Tiggelaar

The total experience concept

The amount of useful information

The speed

The fun I had

The people I met. I saw my neighbor, an ex Youthclub-colleague, a Barcamper, some new people, a reporter

The place

The pictures

The attendances list

The stop doing list

The Cd’s

The Video’s

What I need to give it a ten:

The dinner break had a lot of food but most breads contains the same. For someone allergic to cheese that gave a lot of problem.

Closer to my home without traffic problems

More organized networking in between the sessions and at the beginning

Find a better way to make people actually interact better during the questions part

Want to learn about perfection game?

I am Yves Hanoulle, your virtual Project coach and you can reach me at blog at my training company  .net