3 reason’s to wear a seatbelt…

Today I am helping my kids school to reward people for wearing a seatbelt. When my kids take of their seatbelt while driving, I pull over. These days they tell me when I forget to buckle them up. For their safety and mine.

I am Yves Hanoulle, your virtual Project Coach and you can reach me [...]

Mega-Cindy

Na Peter van de Veire zijn stunt als Mega-Cindy zing ik af en toe van MegaCindy als Joppe en Bent aan het dansen zijn op MegaMindy.
Gisteren begon Joppe spontaan te zingen:
Ik ben MegaCindy.
Ze laat alle boeven vrij
met een pak friet met stoverij

Dit is het stukje van Peter VanDeVeire
Zie ik een vliegtuig,
zie ik een vogel
nee dat [...]

Safety @ home: 6 month old Geike fell of the kitchen table

I’m checking in,
I’m MAD, SAD, AFRAID: Geike fell from the kitchen table on the floor yesterday.I’m MAD,SAD it was my faultI’m GLAD it was not the boys faultI’m AFRAID she fell on her headI’m SAD, AFRAID I don’t know on what she fell.I’m GLAD she had eaten 3/4 of her meal and did not throw [...]

Our first family meeting with a 5 year and a 3 year old.

As you can see in our family’s newyears video, breakfast at our place is always a “heroes happen here” event.
When my partner has breakfast with the kids alone: it works fine.
When I have breakfast with them it is ok too. The challenges start when we are both there.
We tend to have both our own way [...]

Geike: Het lachende loeder

Voorpagina van boekje voor dit event.
Dit boekje was het vervolg op het eerste boekje.
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Doop Geike

Tergelegenheid van Geike’s doop en de publicatie van “Het Lachende Loeder”
PRENDRE UN ENFANT

paroles et musique: Yves DuteilPrendre un enfant par la mainPour l’emmener vers demainPour lui donner la confiance en son pasPrendre un enfant pour un roiPrendre un enfant dans ses brasEt pour la première foisSécher ses larmes en étouffant de joiePrendre un enfant dans [...]

5 conditions for effective punishments

The punishment has to be relative intense.The subject should feel it as a punishment)
It has to be giving promptly. This is one of the problems with the current law system. There is too much time between the crime  and the punishment.The person has to feel that it is related. Even when he/she knows it is [...]

Positive and negative ratification/punishment

 

 
Consequence = adding a stimulus
Consequence = remove a stimulus

Behaviorincreases
positive ratification
Behavior is followed by adding a pleasant stimulus
negative ratification
Behavior is followed by removing an unpleasant stimulus

Behaviordecreases
Positive punishment
Behavior is followed by adding an unpleasant stimulus (Disapproving looks, shouting… Negative punishment
Behavior is followed by removing a pleasant stimulus (Ex Time-out)

 
Punishment in this blog post is not the same as [...]

Shaping by means of successive approach

In most cases behavior what we want to learn to people (or pets) , is seldom behavior that spontaneously would appear. In that case it would be impossible to ratify when it occurs.
So what is a parent, team leader to do?
Well you can build the training in little steps.
Let’s look at how circus tamers do [...]

Giving positive feedback works best if you give it irregular…

I believe in giving positive feedback. While doing research for a big post that explains how to use these positive educational techniques with your (agile) team, I encountered this scientific fact:
Giving constant positive feedback works less good as positive feedback given at variable ratio or with a variable interval.
In fact people that are giving constant [...]

How many pages do you read a day?

Presentation zen links back to an old talk of Chris Anderson for TEDtalk.
Chris is a great speaker.
Some excerpts:
I started doing something that I have forgotten about in my business focus, I started to read again”
“Our penis or happiness as we say it in English”
 
 
I always loved reading. About 7 years ago, Dirk told me he [...]

Baby instructions: the missing manual

From Appelogen, Lienweb etc..
I think this one is a real good one. I see parents all the time over stimulating kids with television.

 
This one make me think about a relative that was born right after the war. His first bead actually was a drawer…

The last one I don’t agree with.
I did throw my two [...]

Being angry is alright…

 
I’m just back from a GTO (Gestalt Therapy Training) weekend.I don’t want to write too much detail on what happens there, as that is private to the group.
Although we don’t learn techniques in the GTO, on thing that happened gave me an idea.
The way we deal with being angry is, is based on a script [...]

Our Birth card: the story

October 19
 
Somewhere at the beginning of the pregnancy my wife said to me, for the birth card, I want to write a little fairytale.
Great idea. Love it. Euh, how will we do this?
This idea was in and out our head for the last 8 months. How do you create a fairytale in a small card. [...]

Where to push stop?

The last few weeks, I am working a lot from home, preparing for PairCoaching.net
When I work at home, my eldest son comes into my office to get me for dinner, or ask me to play with him.
Most of the times, he asks, daddy are you coming.
Last week, I really wanted to finish something before I [...]