I have written before about the perfection game and the Core protocols they come from.
During the core protocols session I gave last week in Paris, people asked me can I use this with people that don’t know about the core? IS knowing about the core enough, or should they have been to BootCamp (The 1 week course were people learn to use the core protocols)
Yes you can. Decider, The perfection game, our two examples that work very well with non-booted people. Or people that don’t know about the core protocols.
I use checkin with my kids. I know a few couples that use the core protocols a lot in their relation. There are lots of ways to the core use in a relation.
The example I gave last week was about using the perfection game to make your sex life better.
Before I dive into the example, let me first explain the structure of the game.
The perfection game has 3 steps:
A give a number from 1 till 10.
B Say what you like about it.
C say what could be improved to earn the missing points.
I remark: if you don’t have any practical idea’s on how to make things better you have to give 10.
So let’s give a fictional example of making your sex life better:
Person 1 says to person 2: Will you perfect the sexual action we had today
Person2 says: Yes I will
Person 2: I give it a 7 out of 10
What I liked about it:
- We both had an orgasm.
- We tried out a new position
- It lasted long enough (More then 30 minutes)
- it did not last too long (less then 2 hours)
To give it a 10:
- we would have hugged each other at the end.
- Afterwards we would have fallen asleep naked close to each other
- you (person 1) would have started
- the foreplay would have lasted longer
Now person 1 can implement some of the feedback or not. Also note that person 2 gave 7 out of ten, this means that the “advice” he/she gives is only worth 3 point although he/she gives 4 tips to improve the sexlife of P1 & P2. (It could be the opposite around: only one tip but worth 7 points)
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Besides the fact that asking whether the sex was any good is pretty much a major turnoff for anyone out there.
I agree, asking was it good is a turn-off.
I got the example from a couple that was married for a few years. And they used he perfection game all the time for lots of different things in their life.
I think that in a long relation it is important to talk about this.
For me, asking to perfect the sexual intercourse is different from asking “was it good”?
With asking to perfect, you ask to improve it. You could also perfect it in general and not a specific act/day.
Yves